Dependency is sometimes viewed as a negated concept; especially when what is being dependent upon suppresses a person’s growth and ability to function alone.
Consider dependency as it relates to children. Children are dependent upon their parents ability to provide them the necessities in life; the basic teachings of morals, goals, faith, etc. Without being dependent upon parents, children may not learn some of the most key elements to being healthy adults. Becoming that healthy adult means that they will become less dependent and more independent and in control of the path of their own life. Now take the concept of positive dependency and look at dreams.
You, as an individual, may be driven and focused on the dreams that push you daily. You find yourself accomplishing the very tasks that lead you to seeing your dreams become reality. There are individuals that look up to you and your ability to chase and capture those dreams. Those same individuals may depend on you to continue chasing and capturing your dreams because your chase and capture inspires and motivates them to do the same. There is probably someone that inspires or has inspired you to not give up on your dreams. For me, there are tons of people I watch regularly to learn from them and engage the steps of their successes into my own.
Knowing the fact that there are onlookers; people who are encouraged by your ability to dream and live your dreams, should create a sense of responsibility for you to continue dreaming; to continue living out your dreams. Back into the realm of children, I know my daughter watches my every move. She’s aware, whether or not consciously, of if I am chasing and capturing my dreams or if I just give up on any of them. I NEVER want her to say, “Mom gave up on her dreams of x, y, and z, so I can too.” I never want her to believe that any dream is too big or unobtainable. I never want to give her a reason to think that its OK to stop going after the things that will ultimately make her happy. I want her to always know that every dream corresponds with a realistic plan and can be obtained at the pace in which we are meant to obtain them. My dreams are a responsibility. My dreams clearly fuel her focus and desire to follow her own dreams. I’m required to be a dream-fueler for her. And so should your dream or dreams become for others, if they haven’t already. Whether your onlooker is your child or not, there is someone that is motivated by what motivates you. There is someone that may stand on the sideline taking notes on how you’ve succeeded at your dreams. They make be using your same steps, making modifications accordingly, and finding their own success in their dreams all because of your own.
It’s so easy to wish our lives belonged only to us, but they don’t. Let your dreams fuel inspiration and encourage others to fuel their own dreams. Help light fires of passion and happiness in the lives of those that see you as their dream-fueler. It’s human nature; human purpose to show ourselves to the world. It’s one of our greatest assignments in life. Show others what they can do so they too can show the world as you have done. What are you showing? What dreams are you fueling? What fires are you igniting or re-fueling?
If you knew the fuel your dreams gave for someone else’s, you wouldn’t give up!