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October 2015

“Eat the Chip”

CHipsThe worst thing a person can do is consciously or subconsciously walk around with a chip on their shoulder. As light as an actual chip is perceived to be, having a chip on your shoulder is one of the heaviest burdens an individual can CHOOSE to carry. Is it true that life can throw some horrible things our way? Undesirable situations for sure. Is it even more true that people can and will offend us? In the words of TD Jakes, life is full of offenses and they are not going anywhere.

It’s a persons level of maturity in life that allows them to keep moving forward regardless of what has made them feel uncomfortable, alter positive outcomes for them, or left them feeling violated and stressed. As a survivor of domestic abuse, I know what it’s like to have the option of being mad at the world; at my abuser even more, but somewhere down the line I’ve realized that I couldn’t let those moments in my past hinder me from my future. There have been jobs I’ve interviewed for and not been offered the position. There are people who have out right left me feeling lonely and angry. In all of those situations, I’ve been able to move forward and keep a positive outlook on my future. I refuse to carry those moments as heavy baggage into my future. They are moments that I’ve not allowed to become chips upon my shoulder, yet building blocks and learning tools for how to deal with the next similar type person or situation. Those would be chips became some darn good eating.

Today, I urge you to LET IT GO! Move on from that place of angry, disappointed, self-destruction or annoyed. Move towards that place of healing, freedom, potential, and resilience. Dig deep into that bag of chips and eat them one by one; never letting them rest upon your shoulders!

Until the next post, passionistas, continue living passionately and do it out loud!

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Do You Need Glasses?

A few days ago, I finally broke down and took my daughter to her first optometry visit. To my surprise, I was informed that she needed glasses. What really stuck out to me from the visit is when the doctor said, “Her brain is working harder than it has to.” Whoa! That was a powerful statement. My daughter’s brain was actually doing more work than it had to when it came to seeing things; specifically reading. Her prescription would ‘fix’ her vision and she no longer would have to try to figure things out with more effort than what was needed. She would see things more clearly.

The doctor’s statement was so profound and made me think about how it applied to our life choices in general. How often do we find ourselves trying to make a situation work? Think about it. Yes, we have plans and objectives in life. We have tasks that assist in achieving the end results, but sometimes we overwork ourselves trying to make it to point Z. Sometimes we push too hard, when maybe we just need to sit back, put some glasses on and stop working our brains so hard. I can think of many times where I thought so hard about a situation that was practically out of my control. In some instances, my persistent actions to see or make change happen eventually created more problems than resolutions. I’m slowly learning as I mature that every action doesn’t require my reaction. I more quickly accept that the time may not be now, but in due time. My forced actions don’t always make me see things more clearly or make change happen in my favor.

Whew… What a revelation the doctor spoke that day with no intent at all. So my question to you is do you need glasses? Do you need to take a moment and just listen and be in the moment? Stop fighting against things that you have no control over; over-thinking; overworking ourselves, when the outcome will often be what was designed to be without your input. That relationship; that job; that promotion; children; those finances may require you to just step back for just a moment and see what comes of it. Stop harping over things that you have absolutely no control over. It doesn’t mean you’re giving up on a situation. It just means that you realize pushing the needle won’t always make the temperature perfect. Sometimes the outside climate has to encourage the change. Pray about it, realize that it is temporary and be prepared for the next step when the door of opportunity presents itself. Oh yeah, don’t forget to put your glasses on.

If Not Today, Believe For Tomorrow

I was 24 and working for a relatively stable company doing clerical work. I’d started out as an intern, but hadn’t quite landed that ‘career’ position yet. I’d earned my bachelor’s degree and was eager to secure my career. So, on a Tuesday afternoon, I walked into a small room with an HR rep and the Supervisor of Purchasing sitting at a table across from one another. I was placed at the head of the table, nervous and unsure of what to expect from the interview.

Like all my previous interviews with the company, I studied a few nights before. And with that studying and some prayer, I was offered every job I interviewed before. Yet, five promotions later, I sat in between those two like a deer in headlights. I was completely out of character. Most often times, even in my nervousness, I am able to convince others that I am confident, but that interview was different. My dad used to tell me, “If you can’t get ’em with brilliance, get ’em with bullshit.” Heck, I wasn’t even able to do that because I just didn’t have anything to offer in that interview. I stuttered with my answers. My thoughts were scattered or incomplete. I was embarrassed that I’d performed so horribly. Yet, I left out the interview disappointed, but not feeling defeated because I knew that I’d get another chance to interview for a different job at some point in the future.

To my assumption, I did get those chances. I was promoted three times after that interview. Two positions allowed me to learn more about the administrative operations of the company. The other position afforded me the responsibility of leading a ten employee team, at just the tender age of 27, as I was promoted to what they call a Section Supervisor. There were so many nuggets and learning moments that came out of those three positions. I learned more about myself and my abilities. They were moments that I more than likely would never have had the chance to experience without being rejected from that first interview.

Almost four years later, the job came up again. By this time, I’d earned my MBA, learned some great tools for my future, and matured in ways I didn’t think possible. Without reluctance, I decided to interview for the job again. Today, I’m proud to say that I now have a career as a procurement professional. It isn’t because I was able to get ’em with bullshit. It’s because I didn’t give up. I allowed myself to grow in ways that I didn’t know that I needed to. I remained positive about my future. I remained faithful to the idea that my future would be bright and that I could continue to move forward with or without securing the job the first go around.

To that HR rep and retired Purchasing Supervisor, I truly thank you for having the insight in knowing that I wasn’t ready. I wasn’t. I even thank the person that interviewed and got the job. I thank them for scoring higher than me during their interview. I look back now knowing that I wasn’t ready for the responsibility or the perks that came with that position. Today I’m able to better appreciate my career. I’m able to better manage the lifestyle I’m afforded from the job. I’m just a better person all around due to having those years of growth.

Sometimes even the greatest diamonds have to wait their turn to shine as brightly as they were cut to be. Even if you don’t succeed the first time, remember that it may be a chance for the diamond to mature and become even more desirable. Continue to believe for tomorrow.

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